Sunday, February 13, 2022

4 and 5 months development

 He 4 and 5 months old!

Layton is now 5 months as life just speeding past. I can't believe how big he is now weighing 15lb. He as chucky and happy boy, who takes after his uncle Jordan. 

Life has been alittle crazy now since Christmas, me and ariyah have been ill unfortunately so have not got round to writing this post.  Ariyah is now 2 and also started nursery so read all about that over on her blog: https://transdadtoourrainbow.blogspot.com/?m=1&zx=c3677385ae5b82f

So Layton just seems to have suddenly grown up he gone from this tiny baby in 4lb premmy clothes all tucked up in our arms, to now sitting, rolling, eating, playing, talking, laughing and standing! It's crazy just how fast this time goes. I felt ariyah stayed little for longer then he has maybe because we had lots of time just cuddling and nothing having anything to do where as now we have her, bigger house, more choose, shopping and just general life stuff going on. It all seems to have just gone by and I don't feel we have been able to fully Cheri's his newborn stage. We all been ill at some point then was Christmas so been busy but we had some very memorable times. Moreso now ariyah at nursery and things aren't as busy we have more time to spend 1:1 with Layton. 

Il break down his development in milestones. 

Sleep: He is generally a good sleeper, better then Ariyah was in the night as she was still feeding more often. He sleeps mostly 4hr has bottle (dreamfeed) then straight back down til around 4/5am sometime even going back for another hour or two. Although sometimes he up at 5 am, then will have early nap at 7/8. Depend too as sometime ariyah wakes at 5/5:30 and wake him up. 

In the day he not much of a sleeper, he cat naps like half and hour to 45 mins around 3 times a day. Sometimes if he sleeps in til 7/8. He have two naps and one will be abit longer sometimes 2hours. But it's different everyday. However I feel as he awake more in the day he sleeps better at night. 

However with teething having colds and his on going tummy he sometime wakes in the night or day screaming in pain. His tummy was bad before getting the right milk and now it's been 4 weeks on it he is settling much more. 

Feeding:

He never been huge milk drinker, he went through a stage at 4 months were he was drink more when he first went onto new milk and had a growth spurt. But at the moment he is teething badly and had a cough/cold so not drinking much, like 2/3 Oz in the day but will drink 6 or 8 Oz sometimes at night feed before bed. 

In the day if he has milk when he doesn't need to nap he drinks less too, as he gets very distracted, where we actually now take him upstairs in the dark to feed him when we are at home, however if we out don't have much hope. He just wants to sit up now and see what's going on. He definitely has feat of missing out. Ariyah was opposite and loved her milk would be on 7 Oz every 3 hours by this age having 36+ Oz's a day but was also very sick baby. He never really sick and only has 24 - 27oz max a day. 

Since starting soilds too he prefers breakfast in the morning then his milk so he have milk in his porridge so he still getting some then will have abit of water in the day after meals too. He loves food and now starting to grab at our food and eat everything in sight haha. He loves banana's, apple and pear and brocoli. Started having carrot bite melts to as rusk's were just boring. 

Sitting: He is now sitting longer and so stable on his own, he will stabilise himself if he leans to side. Oviously we don't leave him and put pillow round him in case as he still doesn't sit for long and will often fall forward. 

He now will sit himself forward himself as well if we put him in his swing, high chair, pram or the sofa. When he sat in our laps he sit himself right up too. Although he also finds it funny to throw himself backwards upsidedown in our arms, as he laughs. 

Moving: He now can roll into his stomach, but gets struck as forgets to pick his head up and will arch twisted shouting at us. He rolls easily from his tummy back to his back. He also twists himself around or push himself backwards when he laid on his back. He been rolling onto his side and really trying to sit himself up now too. 

When on his tummy he really wiggling, he can turn himself and now starting to slightly push himself backwards and even forward a few times. Although he at the stage where he puts his arms and legs in the air wiggling and shouting to move. The airplane stage I call it. He will push his legs off our hands or toys to move but forgets his arms. But I don't think he is far off crawling. 

Like Ariyah he also just wants to stand and be on the move. He loves jumping and will forever stand and jump on our laps, he enjoys being in his jumperoo and door bouncer. He is just so strong and got good head control. He can turn himself around and jumps in them really well. Even at his pediatrician appointment they mentioned how strong he was. 

He stands very strong now, with our support for balance but hardly need to hold his weight now however we still do so he doesn't stand on his legs too much and cause damage. He even trying to step when he stood up in our arms. He stand against his play table or sofa for few moments now too. Definitely going to be a early walker like his big sister.maybe even before her.

Communication:

He very chatty and bubble to us, but seems to shy around others, he hardly babbles when we out but is very loud at home, which is interesting to see this as ariyah overalls social always has been, she does not have stranger awareness or boundaries but he seems to be starting to learn that and will go shy and cuddle into us. 

He does say hi/hello and yeah. He tries to vocalise and say Aaaa... At Ariyah. Like he is trying to say her name. He also has a very loud cry and shout now when he wants attention, like if we are busy or leave toe room for a moment so think the separation anxiety milestone is approaching. He very smile and happy otherwise. 

He can also sign milk and I am now teaching him more and yes. As I believe BSL/makaton helps their communication so much and eases frustration. We will be doing this more with both of them again as ariyah needs it too and we haven't done as much as I liked to. 

Things he likes/dislikes:  

He loves people, like he eyes light up and he jumps around when we at baby groups or out because he just wants to be off and join in with all the others children running and playing. He is besotted by ariyah the love he was for her is precious. 

He also starting to notice and stroke the cats and gets excited watching them which is cute. He loves dogs as well, was so cute with our friend puppy 

He loves food especially now he got the hang of it, he just wants to hold food or the spoon and feed himself, anytime anyone has food or drink he grabbing it from us. He seem to have a sweet tooth like me, liking apples and strawberries and sweet potato. Also likes banana like daddy Ben. 

He still loves his fluffy blankets and has to have them touching his face to sleep. While you stroke his hand or face. He got into teddies now too and enjoys cuddling them.

Still loves the foil blankets and light up toys, anything that lights up in fact he is memorized. He likes all the sensory play He likes the numbers turning on the microwave 🤣. He gets so excited flapping and trying jump out our arms to get to it if you turn the dial and make the numbers change. He likes to have hold of something to. 

He also loves his feet and will hold and play with them. He uses them to hold his toys. He will pull his socks off to get to his toes and laughs at them. He also claps his feet instead of his hands lol. 

He enjoys to be upright standing (with support) and loves jumping. He likes his jumperoo and recently put him in the door bouncer which he spins and jumps around laughing. He starting to just want to be stood up and stepping just like his sister and hates being laid down now as he sit himself up. 

He loves tingles and cuddles and kisses and is very affectionate. Which is so cute as ariyah was not a cuddle baby really. 

Overall his doing so well and watching him grow and develope this personality is amazing. To see the similarities and differences between him and ariyah is special too. To watch them build this bond is beautiful 😍. I can't watch for more milestones and moments to Cherish. 









First Christmas

 Laytons first Christmas. 

This year was very special because not only was it laytons first Christmas it was also the first Christmas that Ariyah understood. She was only 9 weeks old at her first Christmas then just turn one last year. Therefore she was too young to understand Santa and about giving and being thankful. It was also lockdown and covid last year so it meant we did not get to see anyone really, just doorstop visits from grandparents. 

But this year we determine to make it special. We got her involved in decorating the house, she helped with hanging things on the tree, told us were to put other things. She stuck stitcher on the windows. Layton loved the lights and would lay watching them. He also like tinsel although kept trying to eat it. 

Did did art with ariyah and baked Christmas biscuits. She was so excited by everyone's lights and decorations meaning we had to do lots of walks in the evening for her to see them all when it was dark. 

First trip to see Santa- so we booked to see sonata in canterbury where our friends and their daughter ariyah cousin (choose LGBT+ family) came with us. The girls were excited however ones we got in there ariyah had a meltdown because she didn't like Santa, saying bye let's go.. all done lol 😂. Layton sat with our niece to get a photo with Santa but unfortunately ariyah choose not too. They got little puzzle from him. And then we all went Christmas shopping and has some lunch. 

Fee days later we went to a Christmas market and ariyah briefly saw Santa walking around so we managed to get a family photo with him. She was better, only cried a bit. We then saw Santa again when they did the sledge charity ride around Ashford. So we watched him go past our house and sang Nd danced along. She still cried and wanted to go the other way or indoors.depit constantly asking to see the Christmas man, which is what she called him. 

But hopefully next year she will have seen and remember and be alot better when she that bit older. Layton oviously being 3 months only 16 weeks is too young  to know who he is but he liked the lights and music. 

We were about to meet up with friends and family this year which was special in itself being in lockdown for so long. We met with friends and cousins to play and exstrange presents, leading up to Christmas. 

Ben's family well his aunt and cousin come to see the kids and give them presents for a few hours. Ariyah interacted abit more with them especially her aunt Ellie who 17 and see Ellie actually play with her. As unfortunately ariyah and Layton now is always left out when it comes to Ben's side. But they been trying abit more. 

Had a friend from london come and stay with his baby for few days which was great to spend more time with them. We went to soft play and Christmas group. His daughter was 15 months so was lovely see how ariyah interacted and helped her. Could see what she was going to be like when Layton first starts walking and playing. Layton also loved her and smiled and followed her wanting to play. She was so general and loved him too. So so lovely watching our kids have to bond together and being able to have our long term friends have kids and then watch them be friends. Something special about that. 

We also had lots of baby groups that we attended so they had little Christmas parties on the last sessions where ariyah and layton got teats and presents it was lovely. Then the week before Christmas we just spent time as us, playing, dancing, baking, doing art. We went swimming and soft play and just generally had our time. 

On Christmas Eve we had my mum and step dad over, they here for a few hours to see the kids and give them presents. Was nice to see them and ariyah loved her grandad. So they played while mum showed us about the new TV her old smart TV which she gave us. Was nice seeing my mum and ariyah play with the modeling clay they brought her as usually she does like that stuff. She did run and scream at first but mum was very calm and gradually got her touching it. They had cuddles and play with Layton now he bigger was nice to see my step dad interact with Layton as he really not a baby person. 

Later that evening we opened their Xmas Eve boxes with them, then went outside to sprinkle reindeer food and ring our believe bells. She also had Ariyah put a magical key out side for Santa to came in and leave presents for them when they were asleep. We left some Bailey's, an apple pie, biscuit and then a carrot for the reindeers out before going to bed. I think she understood it abit but still a tiny bit young. Layton again has no clue lol 😂. But we got him involved just as much as her in the whole experience of Christmas. We put on matching pj and had a early night. (Well not for daddies who had to build and sort the present shhhh!! And eat the teats 😉) 

Christmas morning. 

It was so magically, where we got up together, and to watch ariyah excitement as she walked into the room and saw all the presents under the tree. 

We let her open a few like her easal and pens, so she could then play with them while we made breakfast. We had fried big breakfast all together and Layton had some rucks and milk for first time. He seemed to enjoy it and know how to eat well. 

We then got washed and dressed, took some family photos and opened more presents. We had fun playing and laughing. Ariyah was helping Layton with his ones as he was only 3 months old. He just wanted to eat the wrapping paper haha. 


We then facetimes family and opened some bits while they watched. Which was lovely that with technology we can do that and still have them involved in the magic. 

The kids had a nap and me and Ben had time to chill and prep dinner. Which we had turkey roast. Layton had some streamed veg which he loved. We opened more presents and played more. We watch some films. 

Boxing day more of the same, we watched films, opened more presents and chilled. Just pure family time which we truly needed. 

We then went to my dad's in London for a few days, it was lovely to get away spend time with family and see those we had not been able to for over 2 years due to covid. It was nice for my sister to finally met Layton too. 

It was a lovely quite family Christmas which is exactly what we needed. The kids got very spoilt and ariyah loved the whole thing. She loved singing and dancing jingle bells, and it was very magical. Can't wait for next year when she really understand and laytons older to understand too. 




Pedestrian appointment

 Layton pedritians appointment. 

We had been long awaiting this appointment, after all Layton tummy problems.

Due to covid still being a concern only one of us could go with him. Therefore I took him up on my own. The nurse started by weighing him, did his height and head circumference and he was hitting all milestone he should be. Weighing 15lb.5 Oz now. Then we saw the pedritian doctor.

She had an examination of his tummy and bottom area, said his skin was much better from photos we had when he was on the previous milk. After going through all his history, like what milks he been on, what were  the reactions. I showed the video we had of his screaming in pain. 

She said that it's seems like a coconut allergy so to avoid that, also keep doing dairy free for now to let his tummy settle before weaning dairy at 9 months. That we had to keep a food dairy when we wean and be careful to watch for other reactions to some things that could flare with coconut like tree nuts of some fruits like kewi. He will then been seen by her again in April to see how weaning has gone. 

She is also refering him for blood test to test milk and coconut. And can add anything on if he has reactions as we wean. If he then needs further skin prick test will be ordered, same thing that we gone through with Ariyah. 

His tummy they saw that his muscles are very tight and he is struggling to control that natural release to have a bowel movements that some babies can take up to 6 months to learn to release the muscles however also because he had allergic reactions and consipation early in his life he tensing because it used to hurt so he also subconsciously thinks it's going to be painful. 

He has settle so much more on this new milk so hopefully he will improve and can reintroduce dairy so he does not build up such an allergy like Ariyah. 




1st birthday

  He is 1 years old.   Seems crazy that a year has gone by already. Doesn't not seem long along he was our tiny baby in premmy 4lb cloth...