First appointment and scan.

 12 weeks now!!

I had my first midwive booking bloods at 10 weeks, due to covid things are alittle different then normal. The appointment was at the local community centre, I had to go alone. They did my weight, height, took bloods, and have me the booklet notes.

Then I had a phone call the week after where it was a more in-depth appointment. The midwive went through basic information, address, medical history, family setting, work ect... Then spoke about the pregnancy itself. She went over my blood results too. These bloods are for blood type, iron, full blood count and then for sexual transmitted diseases to ensure everything is fine and I'm healthy. Which it all was. 

I then had my next appointment booked in at 15 weeks, which would be in person at my gp surgery. 

12 weeks scan. 

I was about 12 weeks 3 days when I went in for my scan. Again due to covid Ben was not allowed to come in which was horrible. I was so nervous something would be wrong and I needed him there. Also it was not fair he should get to see our baby too. 

I went in alone, so worried, luckly straight away I got to see baby moving around, they were so wiggly. Jumping around, turning. The poor sonographier could not get the measurements because the baby would not stay still and was not laying straight out. He did show me the brain, bladder, stomach, legs, arms, and heart as the baby twist and turned. I then had to go out eat and walk around because he could not measure the neck. This was done along with bloods afterwards to work out a presentage of the likely hood a baby may have down syndrome or Edwards syndrome. Not that this would matter to me and Ben we love this baby no matter what. 

In the end about an hour later when I went back in the sonographier was able to do all the measurements, predicting the due date to be between 2nd - 4th of September 2021. Which is exactly what we expected. It was so amazing to see our baby however just not the same without Ben there. Is just was not as special because I did not get to share that joy and excitement with him. 

We do have a doppler, which means we have been able to listen into baby and found babies heartbeat from 10 weeks, meaning Ben can bond with baby and hear them moving around at least. Especially as it meant we heard the babies heartbeat together for the first time. Otherwise I would have on my own at my appointment when the midwive will listen with a doppler at 15 weeks. As in kent they are not able to let you hear the heartbeat at the 12 week scan where as in London with both kids we got to. 

Luckly we also got a private scan booked at 16 weeks which we can both go to. Then he can come to the NHS 20 week scan which is the main one. Which will be special as we can share the moment together. Meanwhile it still not fair he did not get to see baby until then. He also is not allowed to any appointments eirther which again it is his baby and life as well, why shouldn't he be there. 

I understand covid is a real risk, but I'm sure many people would agree that what difference does it make if I'm already going in. If I have covid I obviously would not be going in, but he would also be at risk of having it or catching it, just as much as me going in and bringing the virus home. Then spreading it to him or Ariyah. Like we live together it just a silly rule,  especially when the appointment are at the gp surgery where he can come in to the waiting room anyways, or goes to the doctors himself. But rant over hopefully things look like that they are getting back to some what normal, with the vaccine and ease of restrictions so our only hope is it stays that way and by the time baby is born it is back to as normal as it can be. 

By summer lockdown should be over as social restrictions are planned to be scraped in june. Meaning family and friends might be able to met baby in person and we will be able to give Ariyah and baby a better time, then Ariyah has had this year. 

So yes my scan and appointment went well, baby seems to be very active and growing well. My sickness has eased alot, I am still very tired but more achy and getting growing stretchy pains now. Craving are savory mostly with few odd times I want sour sweets. Mostly rice or mash with gravey or salt and vinegar crisp sandwich. 

I am now heading into second trimester, with a scan and the next appointments in a few weeks. We are starting to plan what we need, sort the house and the babies room out. Planning the sex reveal (not gender). Then baby shower ect all to look forward to. 

I will continue to post and blog to update and document the pregnancy journey which will then be published as I get past viability stage at 24 weeks. But I will keep post on scans and appointments and more on the sex reveal why it is not a gender reveal. Il do a whole post about it. In the mean time if you have not go read my other post about Ben carrying, Where our journey began, to how we got to this point now. 

(Write at 13 weeks.)